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‘The Way Home’ book helping youngsters bereaved by suicide to understand ‘why?’

Suicide: “If they really loved me so much, why would they leave?” 

Now there’s a newspaper headline guaranteed to grab the attention of even the most casual of readers. It’s also the exact same question that prompted Trudy Meehan to write her fictional story book ‘The Way Home’ as profiled by Sheila Wayman in the Irish Times this week. 

Trudy was awarded funding through our current Seed Grant programme supported by Creative Ireland, to engage with artist Fergal O’Connor to illustrate the text of this fictional picture book aimed at young people (and adults) who have been impacted by the sudden, complex abandonment by a loved one, such as bereavement through suicide.  

Drawing on Trudy’s professional experience as a researcher on the value of creative engagement for health and well-being, along with her applied work as a Senior Clinical Psychologist in Child and Adolescent Mental Health, ‘The Way Home’ responds to a recurring statement Trudy hears all too often from those similarly impacted: “If they really loved me, they wouldn’t have done this.”  

Sadly, it’s also informed by Trudy’s personal experience of supporting her daughter whose father died by suicide. 

Nonetheless, ‘The Way Home’ is also a story about hope and keeping faith with oneself and others.

As Trudy told both us and the Irish Times: 

“It tells the story of an astronaut whose pain becomes too strong after he has an accident in space. He gives up hope and loses his connection to home. It is honest and human, but gentle and won’t overwhelm a young reader. The ending is deliberately left open. A rescue ship from earth eventually comes but … can they rescue him or is it too late?”

The book also acknowledges the emotional impact of loss by suicide and seeks to reduce any associated feelings of shame and isolation. It supports meaning-making for children, scaffolding the process of understanding difficult concepts through narrative, image, and imagination.

Read the full Irish Times article by Sheila Wayman

If you have been affected by the topic raised in this post, you can freephone our national Bereavement Support Line run by the HSE and Irish Hospice Foundation at: 1800-80 70 77 (Monday-Friday 10am-1pm).

For information about supporting youngsters through bereavement, visit our Children’s Bereavement hub.